The Future of Selfies

In a distant, alternate universe, Tami has just snapped and shared her 10,000th selfie. She becomes the first person to do so in a mere 5 years. Tami is lauded by the entire planet; as fans fantasize about being able to achieve such a feat, they begin to try to mimic her perfection. Tami, a 25-year-old self-employed model, feels highly empowered by giving people a chance to witness her unprecedented beauty. Tabloids swoon over catching her in the act of posing for a selfie. She’s a role model. A saint. A woman of valor with a smug attitude that everyone ought to aspire to have. She has told people that her narcissism and self-righteousness can be further extended and she therefore plans on upping her selfie capturing to uncharted heights. Her fans abound, and people can’t wait to see more of her. The future looks bright…

Suppose such a universe did exist; hey, it might be imperceptible and right in our backyard! I doubt it, but selfies have transformed the way you and I perceive each other. The images reflect a “me-first” connotation in an increasingly “me-first” society. We all witness people who post endless photos of themselves in a mild-mannered way. These people are harmless; they’re just presenting the fruits of their labor. It’s good to have confidence and a bit of egotism, which can fuel you to do bigger and better things, but when these habits become visceral compulsions—the need to post pictures of yourself—you need to lighten the load.

Selfies have become commonplace in society. We see them being snapped everywhere from funerals to doctor offices. Think of how rare it was to get a picture of someone back in the AOL instant-messaging days; you would have salivated just to see one selfie taken by the woman or man with whom you were in conversation. But now that technology continues to increase at an alarming rate, we have the resources to present ourselves in a plethora of different ways, and at the most unceremonious times.

Apps like Instagram and Snapchat encourage you to post as much as you can of whatever you want, and the most important “whatever” is yourself. So we are left with people posting the same selfies unendingly, because “it’s not nice to criticize people” and the apps essentially provoke you to share instantaneously. Just remember: anything done in moderation is fine, but, usually, familiarity breeds contempt. Too much of anything gets old really quickly. People who have that mysterious mystique about them tend to keep the audience on their toes.

Let me drop a term I learned in economics some years back that has stuck with me: the Law of Diminishing Marginal Utility. This basically states that the more you have of a good, the less you desire it the next time. It applies to many things in life: food, music, SELFIES, etc. That said, the more often you post selfies, the less your audience is enraptured by each successive picture, given the short lapse of time in between them. This is not only directed at women; men tend to turn the camera on themselves a lot nowadays. Don’t get me wrong, I think most selfies that people take are appealing and worth viewing, but they can quickly become redundant.

When your relationship is seemingly flawless and your partner starts taking selfies, consider that a massive red flag. Selfies are toxic for dating; they can tear down a good relationship faster than a wrecking ball against a Lego set. That is because a selfie is inherently attention-seeking, and creates a chasm of uncertainty and insecurity from your partner who values you the most. You show me a relationship that has a lot of selfie-posting from either ends, and I’ll show you a relationship that has a short lifespan.

Sometimes the prettiest females are the ones who don’t know they’re pretty; the under-the-radar, coy individuals who rarely dive into their egos. Studies have claimed that frequent selfie sharers have a dark underlying factor linked to narcissism and traits of psychopathy. These studies are still in their nascent stages, but evidence is being corroborated by many different outlets. Kim Kardashian is releasing a book titled selfish, which is a compilation of selfies throughout her “hardscrabble” life. This highfalutin tale will probably have a great effect on young, impressionable minds; and, maybe for the worse. I do commend Kim’s ability to promote her brand from a business standpoint, but maybe not in such a gaudy and dishonorable way.

Now, what will happen to future generations who embark in the realm of “selfiedom”? Will there be a backlash against selfies for fear that too much pretention might make one un-relatable to more modest people? It all remains to be seen. Moreover, these apps that unveil our privacy and give constant viewership to our friends and family will not dominate our life forever. There will always be something new and innovative waiting around the corner. Hopefully the avant-garde of that “something” will unshackle us from the depths of conceit in which we’ve been buried. Vanity can be inherent, but that doesn’t mean we should look away from things of great value in life.

In my estimation, extreme selfie shooting will eventually become a diagnosed disorder—a compulsion to exhibit oneself for the approval of others—that will inevitably wane through digital detox. All phones are equipped with cameras, but once we decide to spend less time on the phone because we’re literally wasting our lives away, we’ll naturally see a decline in selfies. Until that time, embrace the countless selfies that people share without any qualms. My advice is to post selfies that are original but to post them infrequently, so your onlookers will eagerly anticipate the next one. The visual aesthetics of a female are one of the greatest sights we can glance at, but we don’t need Tami’s reality to become our own.

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Exercise Your Way to a Better Brain

Motion is self-expanding. We can easily succumb to the nonchalance of sitting on a couch and watching endless hours of Netflix. However, a sedentary approach to life is a shortcut to an accelerated death. To grow and live long, we must stay in motion. Physical activity endeavors from Pilates to sports to yoga all contribute handsomely to enhancing your body not just physically, but mentally. All the small things add up in the end, but we can temporarily obviate our inevitable demise by expending more kinetic energy, daily. The benefits of the impacts that exercise places on your brain are enough to convince any sane person to get moving post-haste. The brain can atrophy (cerebral atrophy) just like muscles can with underuse.

Throughout life we are battered by pangs of distress, emotional despondency, injuries, illnesses, diseases, hapless happenings, brain cell deterioration, etc. Moreover, most of these maladies come at the expense of our own ignorance. We’re taught early in life how important physical activity is in gym class. Some of us adhere, some throw the information in the back of our cerebellum only to be retrieved when it’s too late; or when we’ve been perturbed by unsettling news that an impending problem with our body will soon be taking place.

One of my favorite platitudes that I can’t say enough, “The time is now,” really hits the nail on the head on why we shouldn’t delay the advancement of our mind & bodies because tomorrow is truly not guaranteed. I understand how easy it is to be lazy; the willingness to not unleash any energy seems like a quality that an obese society cherishes. There’s too many avenues of contentment and complacency that, and much to our own chagrin, end up withering us away — even unknowingly.

Neurobiologically, exercise releases cortisol — the stress hormone that increases fat and stifles memory consolidation — which is a major benefit to adapting to stressors that may offset your system’s homeostasis. Along with strengthening your immune system, exercise can increase euphoria and feelings of bliss by the production of endorphins. Hence the term “Runner’s high” that befalls you once you reach a plateau of running and the feeling of comfortability and oneness with the specific activity. Long walks stimulate creativity and de-stress you from whatever may be burdening you at the moment.

Alzheimer’s, the terrible neurodegenerative disease that affects millions of people,  can be slowly prevented by increasing your movement. Scientists and psychologists have proven that a reduction of cognitive decline can be the result of implementing small, 20-30 minute routines into your daily regimen. Obesity is a big risk factor for Alzheimer’s, so continuing to shed body weight can stave off the eventual disease and lower the incidence rate.

Cognitive functioning and brain plasticity will be expanded 10-fold by instituting any form of aerobic exercise into your lifestyle. The brain will become sharper, motor skills will improve, brain fogginess will subside, the ability to learn new things will increase, and your memory will strengthen. These are advantageous points enough to keep you from ever wanting to take the escalator again.

As time progresses, we slowly lose more and more brain cells. We just aren’t made to last forever. Our bodies fade just as ink does on a sopping wet canvas. Death is inescapable, but we can decelerate the process by becoming more active. A civilization in motion is one that is highly prosperous and productive. Showing our kids the importance of ‘go-getter-ness’ and relaying the undeniable benefits of movement can take our planet to greater heights. As the battle with obesity and decline in brain functioning continues, understand that you choose whether or not you want to make yourself better. Be wise, get moving.

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Figuring Out Your Body

Many people of all shapes & sizes ring in the new year with an immense amount of confidence. The idea of reforming one’s self and being able to examine how much potential one has can feel extremely uplifting. New Year’s resolutions vary from minute goals such as cursing less than normal to grandiose goals like partaking in an Ironman triathlon, which consists of a 2.4-mile (3.86 km) swim, a 112-mile (180.25 km) bicycle ride and a marathon 26.2-mile (42.2 km) run, all done successively without a break. But, the most troubling goal that people continually fall short of is weight loss. If you browse any library or Barnes & Noble, you’ll notice a plethora of books pertaining to the subject of “dieting.” Semantically, I try to avoid using the word diet, because it comes with an evanescent connotation. Dieters merely aspire to be lifestyle changers. The path to changing your body composition is no easy task, but the low-hanging fruit must be to understand how your anatomy works and how to do what’s best for your body.

In the past year, I’ve dropped 35 pounds. I’ll tell you this one thing: it was not easy; there were endless nights fraught with hunger pangs and cravings ad nauseam. My plight with weight loss was an ongoing battle with no armistice in sight. I was eternally at war with my mind – in the hope of improving my body, I began to introspect and outsmart myself. But why, all of a sudden, did I have the urge to succeed after many fruitless attempts at dropping weight?

During college, I had many schemes to trick my body into a skinnier physique: eating once a day, working out completely malnourished, drinking booze instead of edible food because “liquid calories can’t be that bad.” All these gimmicks worked, but only for a very short time. As my body would naturally return to homeostasis, I’d eventually be back up to my hefty weight – and with interest! I always thought of it as punishment for trying to cut corners instead of attacking the problem head on. College, in general, is a tough time to lose weight because partying and cheap food is ubiquitous around campus. One night of imbibing various alcoholic concoctions on top of late night eating will set you back a few days. Our bodies can’t overcome the consumed calories in such a short span of time. Having been a college running back, I still would always excuse my bad eating with “I’ll work it off at practice” which, of course, is a zero-sum ideology.

After college, year in and year out, I fought tirelessly. I would have glimpses of weight reduction, but once the friends called me to accompany them on a night out (which comes with a two-day package: the calorie consumption from the revelry that overflows into the following day with horrific, fatty-food cravings), everything would go straight out the window and into the dumpster.

As time progressed, I began to bury my head in articles and books on different ways to alter one’s body composition. From observing tons of workout techniques to noticing the worst times of day for my body to deal with food, I became health-conscious to the utmost degree. Booze is a weight loss impediment. The empty calories and chemical-altering aftereffects will leave you searching for harmful carbs as obsessively as a damn honey badger sniffs out its prey. By cutting down drinking, you’ll notice immediate physiological changes. No more brain fogs. No more eating voraciously as if you’re not in the driver’s seat of your body. No more being tired just enough to keep you from making it to the gym. Water is essential – dehydration thwarts all plans of muscular development and cardiovascular expansion. By lessening my alcohol consumption, I became reinvigorated and ambitious. I also implemented cardio in my weight lifting regimen, which consists of circuit training (3 different workouts then a brief break, repeat, etc.) At first, spending a couple hours in the gym for a session soon would lead to two-a-days. I became infatuated with sweating; a euphoric moisture pouring from my epidermis, which was evidence of the changes taking place anatomically.

I attribute much of my ‘getting-in-shape’ to the stairmaster. The machine is truly transformative and efficient. Since my intensity was increasing 4-fold, I had to figure out a way to mollify my insatiable appetite. This most definitely varies astronomically with people, genetically & biologically. Much of my weight gain was always amplified in the evening hours, when I would get struck by thoughts of sweets that only a crackhead could attest to. Rummaging through cabinets, at the moment, I was sure I had an undiagnosed case of “Night Eating Syndrome.” But all these issues were just bad habits that became enhanced over years of conditioning. If you do something long enough, your body will adapt to it and it will become automatic. Also, when you know you’re susceptible to eating untimely snacks, just banish them from your house. You’ll never have a strong enough hankering to get in your car at 4 am just for some Cool Ranch Doritos, well, unless you’re impaired.

When the weight started steadily dropping, I knew I couldn’t revert to my erstwhile behavior. By inculcating myself with health insights, I soon felt obliged to keep striving for less & less weight. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect – I still eat unhealthy, but certainly not as much. I’m a sucker for pasta and sweets, but I’m keenly aware of when to eat them: earlier in the day, when my metabolism is still rapidly churning. The metabolism radius is what I call it – the 3-hour period of time that occurs before or after your workout that will basically eliminate what you ate.

My buddy Brandon Wilson – who lost more than 80 pounds all the while still eating voraciously – once told me, “You want to lose weight? Fall in love with exercise.” I echo those sentiments to this day. Exercise and nutritional intake equally play a role with losing weight, and you won’t get too far by adhering to one and neglecting the other.

That said, moving more and getting your body into a flow where everything becomes blissful with your neurotransmitters being fired off in all different directions is a habit that’ll create happiness and a long life. By slowly increasing your willpower from going a minute longer or a second faster will lend you excellent results. The brain is plastic – we have the ability to transform it into something better, stronger, smarter. Become aware of your proclivities and propensities. Fruits and fibers are vastly better than junk food and sodium. Just remember: There are no free lunches in life; everything comes with a cause & effect; a price tag; a consequence. Slow and steady wins the race. There’s no beating nature and there’s no easy way out, because the hard way is how we got here. Understand your body, for it is yours and you occupy it for only so long; appreciate it.

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Why We Adore Babies

No matter how bad of a day you’re having, or how difficult you may view your life’s current-state, it’s hard not to melt when you place your eyes on an infant. But why is that? We have the finely tuned ability to naturally empathize with babies and look to administer care for them as if they’re our own, even if, unfortunately– they aren’t. Maternally and paternally, a lot of this unconditional love is embedded in us from the outset of conception. From a strangers point of view–totally unrelated to a certain baby–we find ourselves spellbinded by what’s in front of us. The cuteness that radiates from a baby’s countenance seems to tinker with our brain in a way that’s certainly necessary. From the soft skin, to the glowing bright-eyes and miniature nose; we feel connected to them. in addition, the innocence that any baby evinces is hard to deflect. Without the visceral acceptance of babies, we probably would have struggled to survive considering they’re the key to our species’ long-term prosperity.

Chemically, neurotransmitters play a major role in the make-up of our feelings for babies. Dopamine and oxytocin get released in a manifold of ways when parenting and nurturing a baby. These hormones help channel the parents attention to the child itself, rather than unknowingly neglecting it. Many mothers are seemingly, yet understandably, overly fond of their offspring because of these chemicals being fired off in their brain. You, essentially, are them; thus, you naturally favor them. Also, nature has it’s way of controlling a males mentality by accumulating prolactin (a hormone that basically suppresses testosterone) so that a father may redirect his priorities and increase the bond with his newborn. When parents are privy to the connection of their young one, they will undeniably be there for them through thick and thin. Conversely, those who play “deadbeat” set themselves up for failure by devaluing the attachment they’ve been endowed with toward that baby.

Having recently become an uncle, I find it highly admirable, but mostly interesting. When I’m around the newborn, I can’t help but feel a strong attraction–an attraction that wasn’t present a year ago. Now that my nephew (Colton; see picture) is alive and in good health, I can wholeheartedly say, my love is deep for him. I will invariably treat him with utmost avuncular affection. The idea that he’s so pristine, new, and fresh gives me great excitement of what’s to come for him. He has a clean slate. But what if I were to randomly meet a nephew of mine that’s in his teens–I’m sure I wouldn’t find him as alluring and adorable: the newness is everything. Moreover, babies woo us with their charm and preciousness. The baby schema–an innate instinct that causes us to swoon over a toddler’s facial and physical structure–washes over our minds like waves against rocks. But interestingly, the thought of the unknown, is what prompts us to enjoy and relish the good moments when we’re in the vicinity of a newborn. There’s no wonder why when bereaved parents, who lost their children at young ages, find the grieving process to be nearly insufferable. It’s because they never got to witness what the child was capable of accomplishing, and the defenseless innocence that babies emanate resonates deeply within us.

Truth is: there’s nothing NOT to like when you’re around a baby. They’re being molded left and right with a sort of ‘trial-and-error’ type mindset. They look. They stare. Every gaze you exchange with them seems to be extremely genuine. There’s no phoniness or disingenuousness; it’s just them being observant and trying to learn what’s around them, which is clearly something you can’t feign. Their little bodies are a reminder of how cuddly our anatomy once was. As unpredictable as they are, you can’t help but smile at how funny they tend to be in the most dearest moments. The lovey-dovey playfulness we exude when we’re around them has a soft spot in all our hearts. Watching them grow and change each and every day is a privilege, and it’s important to steer these mini-humans in the right direction.

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Cheating: Why Men and Women Do It

         For centuries, men and women have drifted astray into the fray of infidelity. Humans, still in our infancy on an evolutionary timescale, look at this contemptuous behavior with evil eyes. The incompetence to remain faithful to your partner has a natural corollary: a tempestuous break-up and a surrendering of friendship. Let’s face it: most of our partners are concomitantly our best friends. Lying, a by-product of deception, can tear down a relationship far worse than one could have ever envisioned. Most people are in cheating-denial, but when push comes to shove, they find themselves unexpectedly compelled and tempted to do things that are ignoble in the light of romantic etiquette. There are plenty of causes that foment someone into the dark realm of cheating, and this cynical dystopia can be prevented if people learn to be more introspective and to empathize more thoroughly.

          According to the Associated Press Journal of Marital and Family Therapy 57% percent of men admit to having been unfaithful whereas this figure is 54% for women. It’s important to note that this is only the people who admit their wrongdoing; the bleak side of this is that it may be a lot more prevalent than the statistics show.

          Another study published at Texas A&M University devised a way to indicate the strength of sexual impulse by rating people on their attraction to an unavailable member of the opposite sex, revealing that men and women have nearly the same amount of self-control, but men are burdened with stronger sexual impulses that override that threshold of self-control. Paul Eastwick, a professor in the department of Human Development and Family Sciences at the university of Texas states, “Men have plenty of self-control — just as much as women…However, if men fail to use self-control, their sexual impulses can be quite strong. This is often the situation when cheating occurs.”

         Disloyalty wasn’t born overnight; it has been embedded in our DNA as a result of our ancestors’ survival. The reason is that men, however unwise and flighty they may have been, looked to propagate their genes with a number of women to produce a plethora of offspring. Conversely, women embarked on their journey of infidelity in order to find Mr. Perfect. They painstakingly selected a male whom was viewed as responsible and with some kind of high social status. You don’t want to procreate with someone who’s a deadbeat, which depressingly, so many people end up settling for nowadays.

         One of the things that keeps cheating at bay is religion. On the big day, you’re sworn to abide by God and his commandment, [Thou shall not commit adultery]. However, divorce rates are just as high in the religious community, which is surprising, given how taboo the Bible portrays adultery. But, maybe it’s deeper than that. People who are radically devoted to religion may be beholden to God to save their marriage, which often doesn’t happen. Thus, discontentment arises and people take the path of infidelity only to worry later to repent for such iniquity. The ever-spinning gyroscope of repentance is what builds the hypocrisy of religion: if people were really religious they’d follow the “infallible” word of their beloved God; instead they cherry-pick religious texts and remain no more or less moral than the rest of society.

          Now, let’s get down to the brass tacks. Men find opportunistic ways to cheat, and most of the time it’s derived from being immature. Whether they keep “their” women around as “insurance”–just in case something goes awry with their other women–their never-ending dalliances should be a giant red flag to women. Most men cheat because they know they can get away with it. The old platitude, “What momma don’t know, won’t hurt her”, is what every man tells himself while partaking in unfaithfulness. Some men certainly are more prone to cheat than others, and these men are not the ones who should be getting married first. Jumping into the sea of commitment comes with a barrage of responsibility, but many males don’t acknowledge this and think they’ll cross that bridge when they come to it. Unfortunately, the bridge is in plain sight right after that protruding bump in the road. If you’re “sexually curious” or “looking for the extra thrill” it isn’t worth the subsequent consequences because everything you do will come to fruition, one way or another: lies smell, so while we can cover them up, that stench will make its way to the surface eventually.

          The rules of cheating apply for women just as profoundly. Females, however unknowingly, can megalomaniacally manipulate most men without even speaking. From non-verbal cues to subtle gestures, men succumb to beauty nearly as much as money these days. Given their endless power in terms of their physical traits, women receiving a dearth of intimacy or battered by a dysfunctional relationship can snap their fingers into the world of deceit. It’s no surprise that women between the ages of 25-34 tend to have the most affairs. Still vibrant and vivacious, denying them affection while temptation is on every corner is no way to keep women dormant. Women are often confounded by strong emotions that dictate the status of their current affiliation with someone. When qualms start to arise, the floodgates open, and this becomes a slippery slope. Also, many women are vindictive and vengeful. And, as they should, they forgive but don’t forget. So at any moment when a male flounders, they use cheating as a crutch to justify their man’s initial misconduct. Although I may be biased because I’m a male, I find that women tend to be crueler when it comes to cheating. They simply have more options. The notion of being coquettish can make men try even harder than they normally would (see the movie Election for evidence).

          Cheating is even more accessible today, given the different outlets through which one can pursue it. Social media makes this process remarkably easier. Albeit, we’re social creatures who desperately need interaction on many different levels. There’s no more paging someone to meet up for a tryst. Instead, you can set up your liaison with a couple swipes to the right. My advice is this: if you’re prone to cheating, do not commit. You may be still evolving and shaking off your demons. There’s no rush; well, unless you feel she’s pressuring you into a relationship, this would be something you have to mull over, punctiliously. We all don’t intend to hurt our partners; it just springs up on us like seaweed in the ocean. But, there will be times when you are staring in the face of temptation with no one around you to dissuade you of what you’re about to do, and in this moment it’s best to be provident, and ask yourself, “Is it really worth all the bullshit?”

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The Male-Female Dichotomy

People have theorized endlessly during the last century in an effort to figure out the ever-expanding interaction between men and women. This enigma, which seems to be an extreme complexity, isn’t as inconspicuous as psychologists claim it to be. Every year, relationships founder on the rocks, with more divorces and newfangled disputes arising from contempt, jealousy, stupidity, envy, malice, and plain old obstinacy. Moreover, in contemporary society, social media has been the fierce victor in this division and separation of ancient traditions. Granted, religion being a key player in marriage—has almost gone by the wayside, mainly because most of our religious values seem not to permeate through our civilization as staunchly as they once used to. Our current zeitgeist isn’t measuring up to religious doctrines anymore as society exponentially advances cerebrally and technologically. Males and females ultimately have disparate goals from their adolescence and young adulthood; thus, behavioral troubles that were previously hidden from reality may come to fruition.

Men: Are full of brawn and whimsicality; pretty much wear their intentions on their sleeves. From gazing at women in the gym to relentlessly trying to preen themselves to beguiling the nearest comely female, males are usually easy to figure out. All you have to do is look at the history of our species; what happened then usually illuminates in today’s civilization. From a biological standpoint, many male traits are innately exhibited from years of hard-pressed evolution and natural selection. Whatever appealed to women most effectively stuck around with us; that which did not slowly sloughed off into the abyss. However, men don’t have the burden of childbearing, so they can concentrate on hunting and gathering, whereas women have to painstakingly care for their soon-to-be offspring. It isn’t hard to recognize—watch people at any bar, restaurant, or college campus and you’ll see that males act, for the most part, astoundingly less mature and more unbecomingly than any neighboring women. Of course, most males mature physically faster than females, but conversely, women mature mentally quicker, plainly due to the fact that they face more responsibilities, whether cosmetically or internally: it’s incumbent upon them to be independent in order to elevate their rank in society.

The dominance hierarchy, which is ever-present in both matriarchal and patriarchal societies, acts as the backbone for sexual reproduction and success. But, unbeknownst to most Americans, we seem to turn a blind eye to our evolutionary upbringing. As we, as humans, dutifully take heed of the obvious dissension between the genes and characteristics that we possess, we will automatically lessen the quarrels and raise our awareness of our proclivities. Women always bear the brunt of the emotional avalanche because they’re inclined to envision a deeper, long-lasting relationship. Not only does culture instill this emotional pressure, women are prone, hormonally, to express their “femininity.” Males, on the other hand, usually repress these feelings because of the cultural stigma of being looked upon as soft, rather than as a masculine Hercules. This absence of emotion that men seemingly exude can be a hindrance, though. Showing compassion, empathy, courtship, and consideration is apropos to childrearing. In the long run, we all want to procreate children by being perfect exemplars of right-mindedness.

The general consensus, by and large, is that researchers can’t seem to grasp the conundrum of how men and women operate on dissimilar cognitive bandwidths. However, studies indicate that women and men are merely hard-wired differently. Using brain-imaging techniques, researchers at the University of Pennsylvania recently discovered that certain tasks are differently well suited for each sex. The brain’s architectural structure is tremendously intricate and various faculties work better with males than females and vice versa. According to researchers, “Men are more likely better at learning and performing a single task at hand, like cycling or navigating directions, whereas women have superior memory and social cognition skills, making them more equipped for multitasking and creating solutions that work for a group.” This completely substantiates the precarious thought processes that make us more apt to argue. Nevertheless, many of those who are mentally labile find themselves adapting to each other’s foibles. In my estimation, adjusting to your partner is the most pragmatic solution for maintaining a healthy and love-filled rapport.

As time goes on, humans will continue to bicker about trivial shortcomings without being mindful of most of the unfortunate predispositions we all inherit. By simply becoming cognizant of how all us are genetically developed and psychologically molded (nature vs. nurture), all of the arguments and problems will—lo and behold—disappear. With the emergence of neuroscience, I’m sanguine that most people will have to adhere to most of the precepts that apply to our sex. It’s time we unfetter ourselves from our insular attitudes and look towards science as the most informative tool for humanity. Also, marriage, these days, seems wildly counterproductive and forced with all of the consequent divorces. We can eliminate these break-ups with an increase in consciousness. We inhabit this planet for merely a couple of seconds in the eyes of the universe’s perspective. Therefore, take time to learn about yourself and the one you love—you may truly need it in the long run.

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