The Male-Female Dichotomy

People have theorized endlessly during the last century in an effort to figure out the ever-expanding interaction between men and women. This enigma, which seems to be an extreme complexity, isn’t as inconspicuous as psychologists claim it to be. Every year, relationships founder on the rocks, with more divorces and newfangled disputes arising from contempt, jealousy, stupidity, envy, malice, and plain old obstinacy. Moreover, in contemporary society, social media has been the fierce victor in this division and separation of ancient traditions. Granted, religion being a key player in marriage—has almost gone by the wayside, mainly because most of our religious values seem not to permeate through our civilization as staunchly as they once used to. Our current zeitgeist isn’t measuring up to religious doctrines anymore as society exponentially advances cerebrally and technologically. Males and females ultimately have disparate goals from their adolescence and young adulthood; thus, behavioral troubles that were previously hidden from reality may come to fruition.

Men: Are full of brawn and whimsicality; pretty much wear their intentions on their sleeves. From gazing at women in the gym to relentlessly trying to preen themselves to beguiling the nearest comely female, males are usually easy to figure out. All you have to do is look at the history of our species; what happened then usually illuminates in today’s civilization. From a biological standpoint, many male traits are innately exhibited from years of hard-pressed evolution and natural selection. Whatever appealed to women most effectively stuck around with us; that which did not slowly sloughed off into the abyss. However, men don’t have the burden of childbearing, so they can concentrate on hunting and gathering, whereas women have to painstakingly care for their soon-to-be offspring. It isn’t hard to recognize—watch people at any bar, restaurant, or college campus and you’ll see that males act, for the most part, astoundingly less mature and more unbecomingly than any neighboring women. Of course, most males mature physically faster than females, but conversely, women mature mentally quicker, plainly due to the fact that they face more responsibilities, whether cosmetically or internally: it’s incumbent upon them to be independent in order to elevate their rank in society.

The dominance hierarchy, which is ever-present in both matriarchal and patriarchal societies, acts as the backbone for sexual reproduction and success. But, unbeknownst to most Americans, we seem to turn a blind eye to our evolutionary upbringing. As we, as humans, dutifully take heed of the obvious dissension between the genes and characteristics that we possess, we will automatically lessen the quarrels and raise our awareness of our proclivities. Women always bear the brunt of the emotional avalanche because they’re inclined to envision a deeper, long-lasting relationship. Not only does culture instill this emotional pressure, women are prone, hormonally, to express their “femininity.” Males, on the other hand, usually repress these feelings because of the cultural stigma of being looked upon as soft, rather than as a masculine Hercules. This absence of emotion that men seemingly exude can be a hindrance, though. Showing compassion, empathy, courtship, and consideration is apropos to childrearing. In the long run, we all want to procreate children by being perfect exemplars of right-mindedness.

The general consensus, by and large, is that researchers can’t seem to grasp the conundrum of how men and women operate on dissimilar cognitive bandwidths. However, studies indicate that women and men are merely hard-wired differently. Using brain-imaging techniques, researchers at the University of Pennsylvania recently discovered that certain tasks are differently well suited for each sex. The brain’s architectural structure is tremendously intricate and various faculties work better with males than females and vice versa. According to researchers, “Men are more likely better at learning and performing a single task at hand, like cycling or navigating directions, whereas women have superior memory and social cognition skills, making them more equipped for multitasking and creating solutions that work for a group.” This completely substantiates the precarious thought processes that make us more apt to argue. Nevertheless, many of those who are mentally labile find themselves adapting to each other’s foibles. In my estimation, adjusting to your partner is the most pragmatic solution for maintaining a healthy and love-filled rapport.

As time goes on, humans will continue to bicker about trivial shortcomings without being mindful of most of the unfortunate predispositions we all inherit. By simply becoming cognizant of how all us are genetically developed and psychologically molded (nature vs. nurture), all of the arguments and problems will—lo and behold—disappear. With the emergence of neuroscience, I’m sanguine that most people will have to adhere to most of the precepts that apply to our sex. It’s time we unfetter ourselves from our insular attitudes and look towards science as the most informative tool for humanity. Also, marriage, these days, seems wildly counterproductive and forced with all of the consequent divorces. We can eliminate these break-ups with an increase in consciousness. We inhabit this planet for merely a couple of seconds in the eyes of the universe’s perspective. Therefore, take time to learn about yourself and the one you love—you may truly need it in the long run.